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In the Femdom Resource blog, I red this statement :
Anyone who has browsed pro-domme websites or scheduled a session will know that sexual activity between the domme and the client is very much verboten. Almost universally they’ll state that even suggesting it will get you hung-up on or booted out of the dungeon. Of course, there does tend to be some variance on where the line actually gets drawn. Some pro-dommes will do penetration with a strap-on, some will not. Some will limit body worship to below the knees, where others will do face sitting provided they remain fully clothed. But in general nothing happens that would typically be classified as ‘sex’.
I think that this text is for contemplation because there exist many questions and boundaries like where to start and where to end sex practices? What is pervers sex? Should the Mistress wear clothes or get naked as well? Is strap-on a sex practice? What about facesitting? Can a slave sleep in the same bed with his Mistress?
Do not forget I am still speaking about ProDomme and slave (not about SM partners,etc)
Tell me your opinion. Which experience do you have? What do you prefer ?
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Goddess Sarka:
ProDomme sex with it’s slave should, if at all, be up to the choice of the Superior Woman. She must dictated a strick “no sex” policy at the beginning of Her session, with one exception…by Her desire only. afterall…male pig creatures, pigs, slaves…they exist to pleasure Superior Women and not the other way around. if a Goddess sees a need, regardless if it be oral upon Her, entry by strapon to a pig’s ass pussy, or whether it be commanding the pig to jerk off for Her, sex is only something that should be controlled by the ProDomme. if the pig is left to make such decisions, it will be chaos. orgasms are all the male pig creatures ever think of…”their own orgasms”. so it is one YES vote for Superior Women to take sex when they have a need for it, and one NO vote for male pig creatures to solicit sex whenever those pathetic loser pig’s are craving an orgasm….sssqqquuueeeaaalll…the pig (slavenormajean slave2Victoria@gmail.com).
I think a mistres shuld have sex with a slave only if she like him or desire him any way it is the way booth agree, (That is nothing to be with prostitution). Slaves have feelings too
Sex with a Mistress and a Slave is entirely a decision of the Mistress , if She decides that Sex will part of the role play game , then is perfect !
There are not issues , is very simple (beside “Strict Rules “) .
Rules should not be seen as a limit to have Pleasure and Pain by consenting Adults !
Divine Madame
Your questions are very thought-provoking. i have often wondered about this myself. How can a Dominatrix who has a strict “no sex or intimacy” rule use a strap-on on a slave? Can She use Her sexuality to seduce and control him?
As always, the Lady must decide what She wants and enjoys. The slave’s boundaries are there to be tested, pushed so he can learn to surrender his own will to Hers. But the Lady’s boundaries are absolute. Her Dignity and sexual self-determination are non-negotiable.
If She offers sex-like services simply to meet “client demand” or increase Her tribute, then She has sacrificed Her dignity and on the slippery slope to becoming the “slave” of Her clients. But why should She not use Her sexuality to gain power over Her slaves, to seduce them into Her web of pain and humiliation.
i believe that sexuality has its place in a D/s relationship. Other examples include the control of sexuality through chastity (the denial of sexuality in itself is a very sexual practice, playing with the natural sex drive of the submissive). Using a strap-on is another form of sexuality in which the natural predator role of the male slave is reversed into a passive sexual role as a “bitch”. Using a strap-on does not necessarily compromise the sexual dignity of the Lady, as She is not offering Her own sexuality but rather playing with – and abusing – the slave’s.
Perhaps the most controversial issue is the question of whether a Lady can use Her nudity as a weapon. This probably depends on how She views Her own body – as a deeply intimate place of privacy, or as a public weapon of power. These two opposite are not as mutually exclusive as they seem:
The perfect example is a Lady who offers Her golden champagne directly from Her most private Fountain into the slave’s mouth – but blindfolds him first, so He can’t see Her. She can thus use the ultimate tool of humiliation – as Her direct toilet – yet maintain Her dignity as an exalted and untouchable Goddess. And the imagination of Her close – yet unattainable – naked sexuality will drive any slave to despair and utter surrender.
Humble Valentine’s greetings from Your nameless swiss slave
Dear Madame,
I will try to add my opinion in this matter…
I think, ProDomme should have clear rules. Each ProDomme has a different opinion on this matter as well as we – slaves. One thing, which mean for the first ProDomme BDSM practice , can be for another one ProDomme sexual practice. Lets go to leave this matter open, because this is the one thing that makes a nice bdsm.
One thing is certain. Slave should never break the rules, required by ProDomme.
In case, slave likes facesitting without clothes – he must to find ProDomme, that it requires in Her rules.
In case, slave likes strap – on, it is the best to try to find ProDomme, who specializes in this activity.
In case, slave likes, when pain meets pleasure, he must to contact Madame Sarka -)
On my knees, Madame, I wish you a great evening…
dave
Dear friends and off course dear divine princess,
Hello to all.I think that the word domina(mistress) has the meaning of the whole thing.Under no matter a pro dome should ave any kind of sex with the slave otherwise she stops been a domina.In case there is a sexual activity then we are talking for another thing apart domination.The domina is the goddess and the male is the slave who must follow all the orders or instructions given by her.That’s my humble opinion.Regards to all nap
Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka: It is normal that sex with Superior Dommes is strictly forbidden because they have so many slaves and don’t have a very special relationship of trust with all of them. Just with a few very special slaves they could want to have sex with them because they trust on them. I don’t think that penetration with strap-on is an act of sex but it is an act of giving total and absolute power to the Domme and of becoming Her slave for life. Ithink the same for body worship and for face-sitting, they are both an act of giving total and absolute power to the Domme.
I think that is the Domme who always decide where to start and end sex practices and if She wants to wear clothes or get naked. In my opinion strap-on and face-sitting are not sex practices but acts of empowering the Domme. I think that a slave should never sleep in the same bed of his Domme as a signal of true respect and worshipping unless She invites him to do so.
I wish YOU a very nice and pleasant Saint Valentine’s day.
Madame Sarka,
BDSM is some kind of “extreme-tech sex” because the sensations felt by a BDSMer (Domme or sub) are very similar and/or almost the same to those experienced in a (vanilla) sexual relation. Moreover, we should not forget that sex is 90% of brain, if I could say. There are more neurons in a human brain than stars in universe. Then, everything is possible… from artwork to sex.
For my part, the idea of sex depends a lot on the interaction between the two parties, whether it’s a Domme and her client, sexual/SM partners or (sex) friends.
Cheers.
Divine Madame and Merciful Goddess Sarka
Thank You again for this challenging contemplation. It is interesting to see the different thoughts and comments here. And yet: we are all slaves and creatures of the male sex. This question can only be answered by a Dominant Lady and Goddess Herself.
Please forgive me for expressing my curiosity about what You think. All of us here live for Your wisdom.
Good morning greetings from Your nameless swiss slave
I am veey happy you like my post and you find this conversation like challenge for thought. I red every comment and it is very interesting to read r opinion. Of course a Mistress keeps every rules and a slave is just make creature BUT we still are people with brain (from 99% with brain !!) and feelings and emotions. With everybody of you, who have written here r opinion I must agree.
I will write here my opinion later on, I want to read here more comments.
Keep on …….
Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka: I am also very happy that YOU like this conversation as a challenge Magnificent Goddess Madame Sarka and that YOU find it very interesting Supreme Goddess Madame Sarka. The Mistress always keep all the rules and we as slaves should obey always.
I will wait anxiously for YOUR Supreme opinion Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka.
I am slave and I think the Mistress does not need to have sex with slave only when it wants the same
Madame Sarka, my answer is simple: yes/no. 😉
That mean, IMO, no global answer for every situation and every type of ProDomme/slave. But of course, the mistress is the boss and her opinion and feeling decides.
The other question, what is sex practice, simple I take the classic definition … its that type of activity (without condom) resulting in new people called kids. 😀
So I call all other activities (strap-on in ass, and most BDSM activities) to play. 😉
Madame, i have never been to a pro domme but i believe that the dominant must keep certain distance from her slave. For instance, slave should never touch the Mistress body with his hands, only bellow her ankles.
the submissive should only be allowed to kiss and massage the dominant feet when given permission. He should only lick her feet if they are really sweaty tired o dirty and must wash and clean his dirty salive from feet of the dominant afterwards.
The Mistress should be clothed and the sub naked, of course. And Mistress would only touch her sub’s body while using gloves.
The slave should only orgasm by masturbating while looking at mistress.
Sexual intercourse, penetration or facesitting without clothes shouldnt be part of the session.
at least that is what i think is the best.
Sublime and Divine Goddess Madame Sarka
I think that the slave should be naked, ankle, wrist, collar and mask (anyone seen the video may be thinking of him) available to the owner.
Obviously, for the pleasure of the lady kissing and licking everything she wants and used sexually as men use women. Before oral sex with the dildo, penetration front and back, again oral sex and intercourse in the boots of her mistress, and cleaning everything with the language.
After resting under the bed of the mistress always at your disposal for any sexual desire even if the owner so desires, but after each one in its place!
Dear MS,
I prefer domination to include some sex like deep pussy and ass licking, strap-on penetration, face-sitting and a final come by fucking the mistress. It complements BDSM practices very well and grants a mixture of feelings that binds mistress and slave even more.
What do you think about it Mistress?
Madame when Will You release your new movies
In one month in HD 🙂
Hmmm hmmm and again hmm. I have been reading your comments many times and I really enjoyed it. It is interesting to see everyone has a different view on bdsm scene. Ok I keep my word (as I always do !) and tell you my opinion.
There are many variations, aspects, views when we say SEX, sex practices. For somebody, facesitting with pants is not sex practice and for someone else, it is. Strap-on? Is it sex? Yes, there is penetration but not “meat on meat” as it is during an intercourse.
Let’s look hundred years in the past where exist Queen, Emperor and slaves. Now u probably know what I mean. Did they have sex with slaves? NO (officially)! Did they touch them to make them arouse? NO! Did they care about them? NO! There was REAL slavery. Slaves were used for serving their Emperor, Queen, they were there just for the royal service/amusement and nobody cares how they feel. U might notice that “state” people wore leather dresses just to show their supremacy (yes probably there was no latex, pvc, but they had different textiles to use but did not use it). This was all about supremacy and inferiority.
Ok. Back to our glorious (?) century. We all “play” a bdsm game, some men want to be like slave, male maid, prisoner, captive (probably they want to be – to feel like a “real” slave in ancient times) – normally they want to serve for a day/for days – BUT some of them even “want, wish, demand” sex practices and in that case it is complete different level of supremacy and inferior level. The principle is the same – Boss, Mistress orders and a slave should/must fulfil their orders. It did not matter if it was facesitting with or without pants, if it was strap-on, or if he had to wash her naked body or even had an intercourse. It is up to everybody to define how rules and levels apply between Mistress/slave, sex practices/non-sex practices.
My opinion is that Mistress/client should not have intercourse, oral sex and Mistress shouldn’t be naked. For me, facesitting with pants and strap-on are not sex practices… what should never be involved between a Mistress and her slave/client. Then there are people in long term sm relationship (sm lovers or Mistress & slave who drop into longer friendly relationship), this is completely different and I think there sex practices (facesitting without pants, oral, normal sex) should/might increase their feelings, sensations, joy. etc.
So slaves/clients, do not expect sex with me : you can just dream of it.
yes Mistress Sarka. the slave can not have sex with her Princess. The slave exists only to humiliate him his Mistress.
Thank You for Your Divine Opinion, Madame.
i think Your choice is very clear in what You write and must be binding for all of us that wish to be called Your slaves. Your historical analysis is certainly accurate: slaves were there to serve their Queen in many ways but only for Her comfort and pleasure.
If you will allow me one personal comment for historical accuracy: i suspect that just as a king abused and rapes some slave-girls (and other socially inferior females) for his pleasure (ius primae noctis is one example), so i suspect that Queens and Noble Ladies also had their playthings to amuse them. But of course they did not care for the slave’s pleasure but only for their own. And very few slaves were abused in this way – most simply suffered a menial life of chains and hard work with no pleasure and rare or no contact with their Queen or Owner. Punishment was purely for deterrent (sometimes resulting in the death of the slave as an example to motivate others) and not as a game of endurance for the Mistress’ enjoyment.
So we, the slaves of today, are very privileged.
Madame, i would like to ask You one question about a form of sex play that has not yet been mentioned here: What do You think of slave breeding? This is a play which can be a form of punishment or humiliation, as well as a reward for a good slave: where the slave (usually chained) is forced to mate with a slave girl (or for humiliation even with another male slave or a sex doll). Here the slave performs a sex act under the Mistress’ orders but not with the Mistress Herself.
i hope You had a wonderful birthday and wish You a relaxing Sunday
Your nameless swiss slave
What do you mean exactly “slave breeding” ?
Please forgive my unclear wording, Madame.
slave breeding is forced sexual activity between slaves (male-female, male-male, female-female or sometimes slave-doll) under the Mistress’ orders and control. She can use chains and bondage or whip and cane the slaves to make it harder for them to perform – and thus more fun for Her or Her Girlfriends to watch…
Humbly, Your nameless swiss slave
I like slave breeding, I think it is amusement for a Mistress.
Perhaps an idea for one of Your new films? 😛
Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka: I agree with YOUR Divine opinion Magnificent Goddess Madame Sarka that facesitting with pants and strap-on are not sex practices. There is a penetration but not a willing penetration and it is more a practice of empowerment of the Mistress/Goddess that is doing it, a change of power, an act of ownership.
Mistresses/ Goddesses wear leather/latex/pvc to show their Supremacy and we slaves knowing our inferiority should obey, serve and please to Them.
I am begging to be YOUR slave Supreme Goddess Madame Sarka to feel like YOUR “real slave” and i am begging YOU to serve, please and worship YOU for all my life Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka. I just beg YOU to let me worship, serve, please and obey to YOU Magnificent Goddess Madame Sarka and to be used for YOUR amusement and pleasure Supreme Goddess Madame Sarka. You tell YOUR orders Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka tell YOUR Divine orders and me as YOUR loyal slave i fulfill all of them. YOU define the rules and the levels and i obey to all of them Magnificent Goddess Madame Sarka.
I don’t expect sex practices with YOU Supreme Goddess Madame Sarka and they are not important in our relationship Divine and Sublime Goddess Madame Sarka, i just beg YOU to let me worship, serve, please and obey to YOU Magnificent Goddess Madame Sarka.
nulicko, one day you will have a occassion to serve me in real and feel the power and inferiority “on your own skin”.
My view on this is very simple, and seems to be the majority one : sexual intimacy between MISTRESS and slave should be AS MISTRESS DESIRES. Neither more nor less. i don’t think She necessairily needs to have a strict rule for all occasions. She is a free spirit, totally in control, and can vary Her Rules depending on the individual slave and Her mood. She may not want any intimate contact at all with one slave, while desiring worship of Her sacred Pussy from another. She may allow great intimacy with a slave in one session, but not in another, as Her mood and desires dictate. And we, as Her slaves, must accept our status, in this respect as in all others, and the variation in MISTRESS’S desires. If i were to have the great happiness and privilege of serving MADAME SARKA in person, i would not expect my own hopes and desires to be asked for. Whether i am allowed to worship Her glorious Body in the most intimate way or no higher than Her knees; whether i submit to Her strap-on; whether i sleep on the dungeon floor or beside Her in bed (in very secure bondage, of course) – can any reader imagine a more intense and powerful mixture of pleasure and torment, ecstasy and agony, than this????; how, or IF, i am allowed sexual refief after serving and submitting to Her…….all these things would be for MADAME, AND MADAME ALONE, to decide.
Sometime a possible Love feeling can start between a Slave and a Mistress ..the outcome is …..a Mistery and let’s leave it as Mistery !!
mistress you are the most superior,,my duty is to follow your orders,,please give me some place under your feet my most adorable honourable divine mistress
one week with you thahts what i need